Hello Gratisouls! I hope you are having a relaxing weekend!! I have a guest blogger for you this time. So let’s welcome ‘Amy Temple’ in our GRATISOUL COMMUNITY.
Amy is a freelance blogger/ writer from Orlando, Florida, specializing in writing about inspirational pieces. She writes about a mixture of topics including positivity, motivation, inspirational incidents, self-care, and self- control. She regularly writes for two other inspirational websites, and took out some time to write for Gratisoul this time! Apart from this, Amy also writes for the Learning Disabilities Association’s newsletter LD Source. In May 2017, she self-published a memoir titled ” I Am Not Stupid” which is available through Amazon. I’m grateful that she chose Gratisoul as a platform to share her views and opinions and wrote for me.
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Let’s see what Amy wrote for the Gratisoul Community…
I May Have Learning Disabilities but I’m Not Stupid- By Amy Temple
I have been living with learning disabilities since I was five years old… nearly 37 years.
I have never been bothered by it. It’s who I am.
It doesn’t affect my intelligence. I am quite capable of being independent.
Yet society and the medical field have pretty much given up on me. Actually, they really haven’t given me a chance.
I had a pediatrician who believed I was uneducable because I was always crying.
A psychologist questioned my intelligence because I didn’t know what a frankfurter was. Mom said, “That’s because we’ve always called them hot dogs”.
I was diagnosed with my learning disabilities through an IQ test. It wasn’t long before the medical field announced their disdain. My parents were told that I would “not amount to much”. In a nutshell, I was a lost cause.
But thank the Lord, my parents didn’t buy any of that.
I learned to read at an early age. When I began kindergarten, I was the only one in my class who knew how to.
In school, I was in special education but I was able to comprehend the material rather quickly. It’s just trying to maintain it. I would use a tape recorder for the lectures and would listen to it again at home to take down any necessary notes. I also had to have tests read to me so I could comprehend the information.
Life gives a reality- check to everybody
After graduation, I was accepted into a job program for the disabled. Along with my learning disabilities, I have an issue with my fine motor skills.
In some situations, I just can’t get my fingers to work right. For example, I can’t tie my shoes so I wear ones with Velcro, zippers or slip-on. I can type 60+ words a minute but I use just the first couple fingers with the rest lying on the keyboard. Overall, it’s not that big of a deal. It’s a pretty common issue for those with learning disabilities to have.
I stayed with the program for a year but I never did feel right being there. I was the least disabled individual in the program. I honestly don’t know how I got accepted. What got me is that there was an individual who was in much greater need of their services that got the shaft.
And of course, the program director -along with an occupational therapist- had to put their two cents in! To see if one would be approved for the program, you had to undergo a series of tests given by the occupational therapist. I remember one of the tests was being able to identify items placed in your hand while being blindfolded.
And I didn’t pass so they said I was screwed! I remember the program director looking down at a folder saying, “Amy will never be able to live beyond the poverty line. She will always be on welfare.”
I remember looking at my father at the point. Dad looked like he was about to bust a gut! Actually, my mother did, too. Neither one of my parents has ever bought into all that “Amy isn’t going to amount to much” B.S.
So, I quit the program and tried to find work on my own.
During my search, I was always honest about my learning disabilities but was told that I didn’t fit their qualifications. Or HR would be so hesitant to take my resume as if they were afraid, I was contagious!
I went back to school and became certified as a medical secretary, put in several hours of internship at a local hospital and soon applied for a position at the medical centre of the retirement community I was volunteering at. I found out that I was one of three final candidates for the position. Each of us did a two-week internship.
LIFE’S NOT ALWAYS FAIR…
Several weeks later, I found out that I didn’t get the job. It went to the last candidate who was a friend of the two medical secretaries I worked under. I went to the hiring manager to find out why because quite frankly, I had the most experience.
I found out that the medical secretaries had lied about my job performance so that their friend would be hired. I told the hiring manager that wasn’t true but I dropped the matter and walked away.
My heart went out to the other candidate. She was a single parent trying to make a better life for her children. I couldn’t believe how low someone would go and announced to my family that I was no longer looking for work.
I never did mention my learning disabilities so that was not the reason. That’s because I was just fed up with the whole thing! I was so fed up with having to kiss up to somebody when deep down they really didn’t care to have me.
BUT I NEVER GAVE UP.
I decided to volunteer more with senior citizens and ended up getting a temporary job as an activity director for a local assisted living facility as I focused more on a writing career.
Fast forward 13 years I have been living in Florida and have been self-employed in the dog care field as I live in a local retirement community with my parents.
Two years ago, I self-published a memoir titled “I Am Not Stupid” which is available through Amazon.
I write regularly for two inspirational websites and have several other writing opportunities in the works.
So, for someone who was not supposed to amount to much, I say I’m not doing too bad.
And to my naysayers…
I am here and I am not going anywhere!
So, get used to it!
I hope you were inspired from Amy’s story! She truly is a strong Gratisoul and believes in never giving up, no matter how tough life gets. And that’s something everybody should learn from her!
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Until then, live positively and happily!!