Hey Gratisouls!! How have you been? I want to discuss something which everybody can relate to and might have gone through this phase once or more in their lives, and if not consider yourself lucky.
SOMETIME’S IT’S TEMPORARY
Whenever we begin a new phase in our life, whether it’s going to a new school, college or office, we often make numerous relations at every stage, because that’s a human tendency. And during this period, we gain some good and bad experiences. Well, that’s a part of life. That’s how we mature. That’s how we become more pragmatic. And these experiences are essential. They help us to gain a perspective.
In our life, we’ll meet a lot of people, with some of them we’ll just have a formal relationship and with some, we’ll connect on a more personal level and within that category of people, there’ll be again two subcategories. One category would be those people who will make us think and believe that they would be there with us through thick and thin, and the second category would be those people who’ll actually be there for us.
BEWARE OF THE FIRST CATEGORY! These are transient people who’ll feel like permanent. But in reality, they’ll just be there for you in your happy times and would suddenly disappear when you’ll actually need them. They are temporary. Don’t get too attached to them. But that’s not in our hands, right? Just like most of us, I too have been encountered with some transient people in my life, and at that point I felt as if it was me who did something wrong which made them leave. But later on I realized that’s who they are. That’s what they do. And I’m grateful that I still have some precious relations in my life, who actually matter to me and vice versa. These transient people come in your life, stay for a while and just go away. But in return they teach you a valuable life lesson. They teach you that not everybody is there for you. They teach you the true value of the ‘permanent bonds’ that you have in your life which we often take casually. And these lessons are important because they make you aware that have been living life for all the temporary moments with these transient people, and now you should live for your own self and for the people who actually matter.
BUT HOW CAN WE SEGREGATE?
Unfortunately, there is no formula for this. We get to know about this category of people only through experience. If you have suffered some major setbacks in your friendship or your relationship, only then you can have better judgment about this. But still, there is no surety that your judgment will still be correct. Because some people keep their true-self hidden unless they want something from you but can’t give you anything in return, apart from bad experience. ‘Use and throw’ kinda people…
And when we face these emotional setbacks, we become a bit cautious for the next time, which has its own pros and cons. The pros are that you will realize the true value of people who have actually been there for you every time you needed them, and the cons are that you’ll have trust issues from the next time whenever you’ll make a new connection, and those trust issues will sometimes distant you from embracing relationships.
HOW TO DEAL WITH THESE TRANSIENT PEOPLE?
‘Only time can heal these emotional wounds’, yeah, this line is correct in some way but I believe if you have your family, few old friends on whom you can rely 100% or any special someone, then you can heal more promptly. Because these people will actually show you the meaning of ‘true and pure’ bond. These people are your ‘home’. Because no matter how crappy your day gets, or “When it hasn’t been your day, your week, your month or even your year, they’ll be there for you, when the rain starts to pour, they’ll be there for you, like they’ve been before, they’ll be there for you”. (Okay I know it’s the FRIENDS theme song, but you get it, right? With my obsession with this series… Haha)
Well, the point is no matter how many negative experiences you suffer, try to look at its positive side. Try to see the bigger picture. I know it’s a bit tough to do when we are in that situation, but whatever happens, happens for a reason. What if something really bad could have happened if that person wouldn’t have gone from your life? Think like this…
Feel blessed that you are out from a toxic relationship and you still have ‘permanent people’ with you. Be grateful for their presence in your life. Feel blessed Gratisouls!! ‘QUALITY OVER QUANTITY’. This life is inspirational. Just look at the positive side of every experience. Only then you’ll feel grateful for everyday!!
If you wish to share some of your experiences, I’d love to hear them!! You can write them in the comments below!!
Until then, live positively and happily!!