Temporary bond
STRONG GRATISOULS

TRANSIENT PEOPLE

Hey Gratisouls!! How have you been? I want to discuss something which everybody can relate to and might have gone through this phase once or more in their lives, and if not consider yourself lucky.

SOMETIME’S IT’S TEMPORARY

Whenever we begin a new phase in our life, whether it’s going to a new school, college or office, we often make numerous relations at every stage, because that’s a human tendency. And during this period, we gain some good and bad experiences. Well, that’s a part of life. That’s how we mature. That’s how we become more pragmatic. And these experiences are essential. They help us to gain a perspective.

Quotes on temporary relationship

In our life, we’ll meet a lot of people, with some of them we’ll just have a formal relationship and with some, we’ll connect on a more personal level and within that category of people, there’ll be again two subcategories. One category would be those people who will make us think and believe that they would be there with us through thick and thin, and the second category would be those people who’ll actually be there for us.

BEWARE OF THE FIRST CATEGORY! These are transient people who’ll feel like permanent. But in reality, they’ll just be there for you in your happy times and would suddenly disappear when you’ll actually need them. They are temporary. Don’t get too attached to them. But that’s not in our hands, right? Just like most of us, I too have been encountered with some transient people in my life, and at that point I felt as if it was me who did something wrong which made them leave. But later on I realized that’s who they are. That’s what they do. And I’m grateful that I still have some precious relations in my life, who actually matter to me and vice versa. These transient people come in your life, stay for a while and just go away. But in return they teach you a valuable life lesson. They teach you that not everybody is there for you. They teach you the true value of the ‘permanent bonds’ that you have in your life which we often take casually. And these lessons are important because they make you aware that have been living life for all the temporary moments with these transient people, and now you should live for your own self and for the people who actually matter.

BUT HOW CAN WE SEGREGATE?

Unfortunately, there is no formula for this. We get to know about this category of people only through experience. If you have suffered some major setbacks in your friendship or your relationship, only then you can have better judgment about this. But still, there is no surety that your judgment will still be correct. Because some people keep their true-self hidden unless they want something from you but can’t give you anything in return, apart from bad experience. ‘Use and throw’ kinda people…

Quotes on temporary people

And when we face these emotional setbacks, we become a bit cautious for the next time, which has its own pros and cons. The pros are that you will realize the true value of people who have actually been there for you every time you needed them, and the cons are that you’ll have trust issues from the next time whenever you’ll make a new connection, and those trust issues will sometimes distant you from embracing relationships.

HOW TO DEAL WITH THESE TRANSIENT PEOPLE?

‘Only time can heal these emotional wounds’, yeah, this line is correct in some way but I believe if you have your family, few old friends on whom you can rely 100% or any special someone, then you can heal more promptly. Because these people will actually show you the meaning of ‘true and pure’ bond. These people are your ‘home’. Because no matter how crappy your day gets, or “When it hasn’t been your day, your week, your month or even your year, they’ll be there for you, when the rain starts to pour, they’ll be there for you, like they’ve been before, they’ll be there for you”. (Okay I know it’s the FRIENDS theme song, but you get it, right? With my obsession with this series… Haha)

Quotes on temporary friendships

Well, the point is no matter how many negative experiences you suffer, try to look at its positive side. Try to see the bigger picture. I know it’s a bit tough to do when we are in that situation, but whatever happens, happens for a reason. What if something really bad could have happened if that person wouldn’t have gone from your life? Think like this…

BE GRATEFUL

Feel blessed that you are out from a toxic relationship and you still have ‘permanent people’ with you. Be grateful for their presence in your life. Feel blessed Gratisouls!! ‘QUALITY OVER QUANTITY’. This life is inspirational. Just look at the positive side of every experience. Only then you’ll feel grateful for everyday!!

If you wish to share some of your experiences, I’d love to hear them!! You can write them in the comments below!!

Until then, live positively and happily!!

XOXO

Author

info@gratisoul.com
Hey people! I am Karishma Verma but most people just call me Kaddie. I graduated in mid 2018. I am an engineer by profession and an upbeat human, who likes to motivate and spread positive vibes around myself amongst my people! I am a Gratisoul and would love to proliferate these upbeat vibes to folks across every possible age bracket. So, let’s begin this journey of becoming ‘Gratisoul’ together!!

Comments

April 9, 2019 at 11:52 PM

The people we spend time with impact so much on our mental health! People don’t seem to realise that toxic people can spill over onto us and cause us to become just as toxic as them. They come and go when they need something, but when you need them – Poof – gone!

Thank you for writing this!



    April 10, 2019 at 1:07 AM

    Exactly my point!! That’s why one should avoid getting too attached to them or to the bad memories that they leave behind them. They teach us a lot about life and relations though!!
    Thank you for sharing your opinions!!



April 10, 2019 at 2:37 PM

Its so important to surround ourselves with people who make us feel loved, happy and self-confident. Those people who suck our energy or leave us feeling unsure of ourselves are just not worth the effort. It’s hard to rid ourselves of these people, especially when they are friends, but its essential for our mental health. Great post x



    April 13, 2019 at 3:35 PM

    Yes, it is tough to get rid of these temporary people, but once gone we experience peace of mind and that is what we need at the end of the day. So, instead of looking at the negative side, one should gain a positive perspective. One should embrace the true relations that they already have.
    Thank you for sharing your opinions!
    Love,
    Gratisoul



April 12, 2019 at 1:39 PM

I’ve recently just been through this with two transient people I thought were my best friend’s. I thought they just didn’t like hanging around with me anymore and thought I’d done something wrong. I could have used this article 😊 You’re absolutely right about lifetime goals



    April 13, 2019 at 3:30 PM

    We all go through this phase and GROW through this phase. We learn a lot from these transient people. and the lessons that we learn are permanent. Thank you for sharing your views!!
    Love,
    Gratisoul



April 12, 2019 at 1:50 PM

I’ve definitely experienced people like this…who come running back to you when they have nothing else to do or no other friends to see. But honestly it makes it so much easier to see who is really there for you!



    April 13, 2019 at 3:29 PM

    It truly does!! These people are just toxic for our mental health and one should definitely stop entertaining them so that they can’t come back again in our lives!!
    Thank you for sharing your views!
    Love, Gratisoul



April 12, 2019 at 7:38 PM

I like the perspective you take on this. I also think life is short, so it is important to value and appreciate those people in your life that are there for you on a permanent basis. There are lessons that we can learn from temporary relationships, and we should take lessons from that and move on. Well said, thanks for sharing!



    April 13, 2019 at 3:26 PM

    Yes, instead of wasting our valuable time on these transient people and the memories they leave behind, we should focus on the positive aspect of it. We should embrace all our permanent relations and enjoy that.
    Thank you for sharing your opinions on the same!!
    Love,
    Gratisoul



April 12, 2019 at 8:30 PM

Very good read. Sometimes we need to de clutter our life and weed out the toxins



April 15, 2019 at 8:07 PM

I really enjoyed reading this post! I’ve recently cut out a lot of people because they were not adding any value to my life and therefore their being in it felt pointless. I now have more time to spend focusing on myself, and those who actually matter.



    April 16, 2019 at 1:05 AM

    You did the right thing. These people suck out the life from us. It is probably the best thing to move forward without them and be with people who bring out the best in us.
    Sending you positive vibes…
    Love,
    Gratisoul



April 15, 2019 at 10:20 PM

I always find that the people I surround myself with highly influence my productivity and mood. Thanks for the reminder about making this a focus!



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