Self Love


Hey Gratisouls!! Today I want to talk about something which I have started practicing recently i.e. the art of ‘Self-Love’. Although it has just been a couple of days but I have already started feeling a lot better mentally and emotionally.

Quotes on Self love

          People usually don’t know the true power of self-love and think that anybody can do it. But in reality, it is the toughest thing anybody can do and once you master the art of self-love, you can become invincible. So, how to master the art of self-love? But before that what is self-love?


          First of all, there is a difference between self-obsession and self-love. Self-obsession is basically all about your outer physical appearance. You like how you look from the outside. Whereas self-love is loving yourself inside out. It has less to do with how you look from the outside and more with how you feel from inside. Self-obsession fades away with age whereas self-love grows with age. The day you start loving yourself like you love others, your life will change completely.

          Self-love means that you have to love all of your positives and negatives. You can’t just embrace your good parts and avoid your negatives. That’s not loving yourself completely. Think of it like this… Close your eyes and think about that one person whom you love the most. Do you love just how they look or how they are from inside out? Do you accept all of their strengths and weaknesses, their positives and negatives and still love them unconditionally without any expectations? Can you do anything for them?


quotes on self love

Accept your dark thoughts as they are. Don’t hate yourself for having them. Every individual has his/her weak points and instead of loathing yourself for being weak, change your mindset by saying this to yourself, ‘I am not a perfect human being but I can become a perfect soul. I love all my positives and negatives equally. I love myself.’ Repeat this in your mind whenever you experience low self-worth, whenever a negative thought lowers your mood and kills your upbeat vibe.

Just remember you are worth everything that you selflessly give to others.


          Now that’s a tough part. It really requires a lot of determination and mental stability. There are a few things that I do whenever I experience myself low on self-love.

1) Whenever I feel that I’m not in a good mood, I introspect. I try to look for the reason behind my bad mood. I know most of the times it’s just my overthinking that ruins my mood but I tend to find the root cause behind my bad mood and tend to fix it.

2) Sometimes when my negative thoughts try to overpower my positive ones, I have to calm myself down. I either listen to good music or talk to my friends or family. Not about all these irrelevant thoughts but anything except that. It is an excellent distraction and instantly I feel a lot better.

3) Since I’m a big time overthinker so it gets a bit exhausting sometimes to calm down myself and during that time I just look in the mirror, give myself a really strong and positive pep talk and BOOM everything around me feels a lot better. See, sometimes you are sufficient to change your own mood. Don’t underestimate yourself.

Self love quotes

These are some of the ways by which I try to calm all of my negative thoughts and try to love myself more. Because it is in these vulnerable times, that one needs to love themselves. And once you start loving yourself, people around you will automatically start loving you for the amazing person that you are. I’m also trying to ace the act of self-love, and so should you. Let’s love ourselves and conquer the world together! Shall we, Gratisouls?

          Also something exciting for you guys… I did 2 collaborations with two of my blogger friends. I did an interview with Alanna who blogs over at Lifelikeagalaxygirl and I also wrote a ‘Letter to my younger self’ for Women With Gifts. Do check them out and go give these amazing bloggers some love on their beautiful series.



If there are any tips that you want to share about how to ace self-love you are most welcome to share them in the comments below. I’d love to hear them.

Until then, live positively and happily.



Hey people! I am Karishma Verma but most people just call me Kaddie. I graduated in mid 2018. I am an engineer by profession and an upbeat human, who likes to motivate and spread positive vibes around myself amongst my people! I am a Gratisoul and would love to proliferate these upbeat vibes to folks across every possible age bracket. So, let’s begin this journey of becoming ‘Gratisoul’ together!!


April 20, 2019 at 9:52 PM

It is very hard to practice self love when you hate yourself as much as I do right now. These are great tips and I will attempt to follow them. I have to get back on track. Mopeing around all day is not going to get me anywhere.

    April 22, 2019 at 9:25 PM

    Mastering the art of self-love is really tough. We tend to love others but we forget to do that for ourselves. We should love ourselves the same way as we love others. I’m glad that I could help you out in some way!!

April 21, 2019 at 11:09 AM

This was such an adorable post! It’s important to reflect and then emit positive thoughts (that will hopefully impact your view of self and others around you!)

    April 22, 2019 at 9:23 PM

    Yes, that is actually very important. Self-love is a necessity if we want to achieve inner peace and satisfaction.
    Thank you for sharing your opinions on the same!!

April 21, 2019 at 6:31 PM

Your blog is truly an inspiration. Such a positive vibe. Love your work. Self love should be number 1 on out list. We all are trully unque and special.

April 22, 2019 at 7:56 PM

Self-love is so difficult for me, considering I have had nothing but self-hate for years. But it is something I am working on every day.

Thank you for sharing.

– Nyxie


    April 22, 2019 at 9:18 PM

    Self-love is an ongoing process. It is very tough to love ourselves completely. I am also learning to do that.
    Thank you for sharing your opinions on the same. I wish you all the best for your future endeavors.

April 22, 2019 at 10:54 PM

Thank you so much for being such an inspiration to me and so many others. I’ve come across many of your posts or encouragements right when I needed them! So many don’t appreciate the art of self love or connect with truly loving self. How important is being the best person you can be for yourself first and then the people who rely on you? That’s the question I ask my 12 year old daughter and the answer is usually the same. She’s learning though. Thanks again!

    April 23, 2019 at 1:42 AM

    Aww, that’s really so sweet of you!! It means a lot that I could help you out in some way!! Yes, you are right once we can ace the art of self-love we can really accomplish a lot and also we would get to know what is good for our mental health and what’s not!! And just like your daughter, I am learning too!! Hopefully, soon I’ll be full of self-love too!!
    Thank you for stopping by and sharing your opinions!!
    Sending you some positive vibes…

April 23, 2019 at 1:34 AM

I am always looking for ways to accomplish self-love. Thank you for this! I enjoyed it.

April 25, 2019 at 11:00 AM

This is so true! It took me a while to wholly love myself, instead of just loving what I liked. It still trips me up from time to time, but learning to love yourself is probably the most important thing one can ever do. Lovely post!

    April 26, 2019 at 11:59 PM

    Yes, self-love is very tough because we tend to love only the good part about ourselves and suppress the bad ones. Whereas, we should embrace our positives and negatives equally!!
    Thank you for sharing your opinion on the same!

April 26, 2019 at 9:24 AM

Hi Karishma! The last comment I shared on this post was so negative. I had the flu when I wrote that and was kind of in a bad place. Thank you for all of your positivity that you put out into the world. I have nominated you for the Sunshine Blogger Award. Read my post for the rules https://lucky4writing.com/2019/04/25/sunshine-blogger-award/ 🙂

April 27, 2019 at 7:41 AM

one of the things that really resonated with me was when i read the big text image saying love yourself as much as you want to be loved. even though it doesn’t feel like it, we really do have the choice to love or hate ourselves for whatever reason. its funny how its so easy to hate things about ourselves, than it is to love. i guess that is what overthinking can do to you like you said.

    May 2, 2019 at 11:50 PM

    Yes, we humans give love to others which we should give to ourselves as well!! And yes, overthinking can lead to self-destruction! So, to overcome those thoughts one should embrace all their positives and negatives equally and love themselves completely!!
    Thank you for your appreciation!

April 27, 2019 at 12:20 PM

Self love is a journey. Once mastered, your life would be so much better. Great post.

April 27, 2019 at 6:26 PM

I think a daily affirmation to remember how awesome you are and help stay grounded is very important. Great post!

May 3, 2019 at 9:20 AM

I couldn’t agree more with this blog post.

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