Hey Gratisouls!! How you doin’? I want to ask you a quick question…
Are you a positive person or a negative person?
Well, before answering that what does being a positive person actually mean?
I’ll tell you… continue reading!!
WHO IS A POSITIVE PERSON?
First of all just to clarify, being a positive unicorn is just a figure of speech and it is as fictitious as a unicorn (I still love unicorns though… why? because they are beautiful). So, if being a positive unicorn is an ideal situation then what is real? How to be a positive person in a world where there is a cut-throat competition and people just try to weigh you down at every chance they get?
Many people around me tell me that I have a positive vibe, that they feel a certain kind of positivity or a positive vibe when they are with me or talk to me. This made me think that who actually is a positive person? Because to be honest I am also not rainbows and sun shines every time. I too have bad days. So does that make me a negative person who is just writing about positivity and not actually preaching it? The answer is NO.
Being a positive person does not mean that you have to be positive in every situation and your first reaction to anything should always be a positive one. It simply means balancing your positive and negative thoughts rationally and prioritizing those thoughts that are good to keep you sane and at peace and those thoughts should be the positive ones.
Writing about positivity really created this added pressure on me that I have to react positively in every situation that life puts me into. It made me think that I’m not being ‘true to my own words’. I felt that I don’t deserve to be a true ‘GRATISOUL’. But all these thoughts changed after I had a conversation with two of my friends yesterday.
One of my friends is studying masters in psychology and the other one is a happy go lucky person! They both are my childhood friends so I could share even lamest of things with them. So, yesterday we were having this really intellectual conversation (which is a rare sight with us because we are a bunch of lame people who just laugh on silly jokes all the time when we are with our group of people… haha)
So, I told them that I am over thinking a lot these days, and I find myself contradicting my negative thoughts with my positive ones and it is getting a bit exhausting for me because I know that these negative thoughts are just baseless which my brain is just creating on its own and I have to stop thinking because these thoughts make me anxious without any reason. (Yes, that’s what negativity does… makes you anxious). I told them that if I am blogging about positivity then how can I even have thoughts about being negative? (Yeah that’s how much thought I put into these things sometimes…. #Overthinker). They gave me a piece of very sane advice.
HOW TO REMAIN POSITIVE IN NEGATIVE SITUATIONS?
They told me that you are only human. You are allowed to have negative thoughts. Don’t create this idealistic bubble around yourself that you have to remain positive all the time. Because you know what? Nobody can do that. You are a GRATISOUL. And having negative thoughts doesn’t make you any less of that. This really made me calm. Because I was creating an ideal goal for myself.
Do you know what happens to us?
When faced with adversity, many people allow their minds to spiral into negative thinking, which causes them to focus on problems, instead of creating solutions. Challenges, obstacles, and failures are only present in our lives to help us evolve. Without them, life would be so boring!!
So, I don’t know if you want to hear this today or not, but if you are feeling the pressure of negative situations or people, don’t hate yourself or your life for this little thing. You are way above all this. Start with having one positive thought every day. And let me tell you, being a positive person is neither too easy nor too tough. You’ll fail a thousand times, but you’ll stand up and rise after that.
A positive person is not someone who just thinks positively in every situation. But the one who knows how to balance his/her negative and positive thoughts and prioritize the positive ones that will make you strong both emotionally and mentally. Don’t hate yourself for having these negative thoughts. Instead, embrace your positives and your negatives equally because that’s what makes you unique. That’s what makes you, YOU.
So if you are a positive unicorn and think that what I wrote is too much for you to handle then you are right. Congratulations on being so positive in life and let’s meet (Haha). But if you are somebody even remotely like me then don’t worry pal, Gratisoul has your back every time!! *winks* You’re also a GRATISOUL.
Embrace your true self. Love yourself. Don’t pressurize yourself to be like someone or what ‘society’ thinks you to be. Be who you are. Because you are unique in your own way, and nobody can be as amazing as YOU. (NEVER FORGET THAT)
Until then, as I always say, live positively and happily!!