We human beings are very amusing species. We start with those awkward small talks with a complete stranger, get to know each other more, become friends, become really close like almost family and then sometimes some situations come up and then *BAM* everything finished. What came up all of a sudden? Why did that bond break? How did we go from being almost family to complete strangers? Well, that “something” is “Expectations”. Expectations ruin a relationship. But on the contrary where there is love, expectations automatically come up, right? So, how can one not expect and just keep loving selflessly in this selfish world?
Well, expectations are our human reactions towards someone we love. When we stick by another person in their good and bad times, we definitely expect the same thing in return, right? And this should actually happen. But sometimes it does not. And during those times, it hurts really bad. And to avoid that disappointment, avoid expectations.
HOW TO LIVE WITH ZERO EXPECTATIONS?
I won’t say it’s easy to not to expect from another person. I do too. But what life has taught me till now is keep doing good deeds for people, irrespective of the fact that you know that person or not. Keep helping the elderly people when they find it extremely impossible to do even the simplest of task like how to operate a smartphone. We find it simple because our young mindsets can adopt and intake new knowledge and technology. Our grandparents might not. So, teach them patiently. (they taught you how to walk… don’t forget)
My point is no matter what people do to you, forgive them if they did bad, thank them if they did right to you, support them when they need you, and stick with them in their good and bad times. Because karma will bring back the results of your actions in its own way.
BUT LOVE=EXPECTATIONS, THEN HOW CAN WE NOT EXPECT?
Where there is love there are expectations. That’s true. There is no denial in that, but we say that love is selfless then if we start expecting isn’t that being selfish? Isn’t that give and take kind of relationship? Is that love? Is that selfless?
No, right? Then stop expecting! If you love a person, love them selflessly. Love them with zero expectations. Stick with them in their good and bad times. Don’t think if they will do the same for you or not. Because when that doubt arises, you begin to question your love for the other person and give way to expectations. Avoid having those thoughts. Because if you selflessly do good deeds for a person it will definitely come back to you fourfold. You wouldn’t have to question that. Expectation-free life is a selfless life!! Try it!! Become a Gratisoul!!
I hope I could be of some help to make you understand how an expectation-free life is worth living. Do comment how you feel about this!
Until then live positively and happily.