We, humans, are really funny creatures. We want love, give love, but sometimes forget how much love is sufficient to give and receive?
I’ve seen kids with overprotective parents and they strive to breathe independently for once but couldn’t because their parents are too concerned for them that they put tons of restrictions.
I’ve seen friends being overprotective for each other and they don’t allow each other to have other ‘best friends’ apart from them.
I’ve also seen couples who are so much in love, that they don’t even realize when they have started parenting their ‘better-half’ out of ‘love’.
If you fall in any of this category or have faced any of the above then keep on reading…
Are Love and being Protective same?
Love is like a package deal where you’ll get numerous other emotions for free. So, being protective of the other person is a natural deed and is generally done out of love. Being protective is necessary to show that you care for the other person and their well-being.
But you have to put a break to that emotion from time to time else it’ll result in over-speeding and thus it’ll be the death of your relationship. Do you want that to happen? No, right? So, drive safe and wear those seat belts!! (Wow, how did this blog turned from love to traffic rules?)
How to Realize If You are Suffocating the Other Person with Your Love?
You’ll start noticing those minor behavioral differences in their personality when they meet you. They’ll be cranky, they’ll be a bit serious than their usual-self. And this will result in major differences like not sharing about their day-to-day activities which they once loved to do. They’ll refrain to tell you anything because they know how you’ll react.
Instead of you being their support system, they’ll rant about the problems that they are facing with you to a third person. So, what should have been a private matter has now become a group project!!
All these minor differences can result in tragic results if they are not solved immediately!! And that is up to you. Either you can keep your over-protective nature or your love. They can never go hand in hand.
‘YOU MUST LOVE IN SUCH A WAY THAT THE OTHER PERSON FEELS FREE.’
Become a free soul together. Become GRATISOUL!! (Waddup self-promotion!!)
How to protect your Relationship from your Over-Protective Nature?
If you are a parent-
This is a slightly slippery platform because if you’ll put out too many restrictions on your kids, they’ll lie to you and do whatever they wanted to do anyway. And if you accept their every demand, they might take undue advantage.
So, rather than being an extremist, play safe. You can allow them to party with their friends but can set a time deadline. You can give them expensive gifts but not at the expense of their studies. You have to find a perfect balance between being protective and concerned to being over-protective and suffocating. (Wear something anti-slippery, just in case)
If you are a friend-
Yeah, I get it that he/she is your ‘best-friend’ and you don’t want to share them with any other person (been there done that) but ask yourself is it even fair to isolate them from others? Shouldn’t this be their own decision to make? It’s their life after all!!
If they truly care about you, no matter how many friends or acquaintances they make, you’ll still be their 2 AM person. You just have to trust your friend and those lame jokes that you share with each other that nobody can understand how you two are a part of this planet?
If you are in a relationship-
First of all, you have to come up with this self-realization that, ‘YOU LOVE THEM, YOU DON’T OWN THEM’. You are not their parent, you are equal partners, so stop behaving like one.
Stop telling them what to wear, what to eat, where to go, when to go. All you have to do is show your concern, not make their time-table. They are not in school. (if you are in school then I guess you don’t want to make a second time-table when you go home after your real school, right?)
Don’t mistake your act of controlling the other person as ‘love’. That’s not loving, that’s your dominance over the other person.
Prioritize what you want, your controlling nature or your relation? The choice is yours.
Also, if you want to ask some life-related questions, you can chat with me by clicking on that side chat box and let’s bond over some positive vibes!!
Until then, live positively and happily!