definition – ambivert – /ˈambɪvəːt/ noun PSYCHOLOGY- a person who has a balance of extrovert and introvert features in their personality.
In my juvenile years, I was a reserved, shy and an extremely introvert person. I used to talk to limited people, didn’t like to socialize much and preferred the company of just a few of my friends and family and myself. I would still prefer a heart-to-heart conversation with my people over a party… well on some days at least!! (Yeah sometimes I want to become a party animal and dance like a crazy person haha).
JOURNEY FROM AN INTROVERT TO AN AMBIVERT…
Gradually I started feeling that my lack of expressing my emotions is becoming an emotional barrier and I am not able to convey what I actually wanted to say. I want to talk it out, but thinking about what will be the consequences if the situation becomes worse, I preferred keeping things to myself and would resolve it on my own. But somehow it started making me feel a bit distant from the people who mattered to me a lot. I didn’t know what was going wrong.
The biggest misconception about an introvert person is that people think that they are not opinionated, they don’t have emotions because they don’t express it that efficiently as extroverts can do. Yes, introverts require time and space to express themselves but they do express themselves in their own way. It just requires a person to understand and appreciate their efforts that they are gradually opening up.
If you are an introvert, first of all, appreciate yourself because it requires patience, understanding, and strength to control your emotions when you desperately want to say it out loud. You don’t have to hate yourself for it. YOU ARE UNIQUE IN YOUR OWN SWEET WAY.
But if you think that your lack of expressing your thoughts is creating a grudge amongst your loved ones and you feel that you should try being an ‘ambivert’ if not an extrovert (because let’s be real, transformation from an introvert to an extrovert requires time and efforts so let’s achieve the mid-way first) so that at least you can say what you want to (at least sometimes) read these simple steps…
HOW TO EXPRESS LIKE AN AMBIVERT?
(Just to clarify, these are some steps which I followed and you can twist and blend them in your own way too!!)
1. If you want to convey your opinion but can’t, at the right time, don’t feel bad…. initially, try to converse in front of a mirror. Just imagine that the exact same situation is happening and say what you wanted to say at that time. In that way, you’ll feel some kind of satisfaction that at least you finally let it out, whatever was bothering you. Even though there was nobody in front of you still conveying what you wanted to say would bring you inner peace.
2. After mastering the first step, the next step is to try to say at least bits and fragments of your actual thought/opinion. You’ll hesitate primarily, you’ll hate yourself for it that why couldn’t you say the right things at right time, but you have to remain patient at that time (use your introvert power of remaining calm and patient at that time… haha) you have to try again and again until you can finally reach to a level where you can effortlessly convey your message (that’ll take some time though, but you’ll reach there).
3. Try to come out of your comfort zone. Experience something new every day. Go to random new places in your own city, pick up an outdoor hobby, join any cultural/ literary/ dramatics club where you would be forced to take responsibilities that’ll push you to socialize and converse with people of different age groups. Stepping out of your comfort zone would make you confident and you’ll find it easy to start a random conversation anywhere anytime. And that, in turn, will make you an ambivert and finally an extrovert who’ll not hesitate to express anymore.
ONE BONUS LAZY STEP…
And the easiest step would be to wait for an extrovert person who’ll adopt you and would drag you to do things that you’ll never do on your own… (Haha Just kidding)
Follow these 3 simple steps to transform your introvert side into an ambivert. I’m not discouraging that introverts should change themselves, I too was an introvert, I wanted to change because I started having grudges with my friends and family because I couldn’t express what was killing me inside. Just to express my inner emotions and feelings I decided to change myself into an ambivert.
So, if you are an introvert, appreciate yourself. You are a Rockstar. If you are an ambivert, that’s great! You can easily gel up with introverts and extroverts. And if you are an extrovert, well you are also amazing! In short, embrace who you are, and if you feel that your personality is creating any sort of hindrance in your relationships, introspect and do what is needful to protect that relationship. Because we humans breathe and live on LOVE.
SAY WHAT YOU MEAN, JUST DON’T SAY IT MEAN.
If you have any opinions or thoughts about this topic, you are free to share in the comments below. I’d love to hear them!!
Until then, live positively and happily!!