Have you been in a situation where you thought it’s going out of your control and you have no clue how you’ll get through it and it just keeps on getting worse and worse and you just want to get out of it without losing yourself in the process?
Hey Gratisouls, how have you been? How’s your week going so far? When was the last time you went out on your own and actually enjoyed it? When was the last time you treated yourself? WHY? You don’t need a reason to celebrate yourself, that’s why.
In the midst of all the chaos that happens around us every day, we forget to take care of ourselves. We forget that we are also human and we too require the same amount of care and love that we give to others.
IS IT SELFISH TO TAKE SOME TIME OUT FOR YOURSELF WHEN OTHERS NEED YOU TOO?
You can not pour from an empty kettle. If you are not feeling good about yourself, feeling miserable, facing a bad phase in your life or going through a lot, no matter how much you want to help others, you just can’t. The people who care about you will understand that you need some time for yourself to figure it out, rather than distancing themselves from you, and that’s when you’ll realize who your ‘real connections’ are. It’s in these situations when people show their true faces, see it carefully.
SPEND SOME TIME WITH YOURSELF
To be honest I’ve always been surrounded by people and it makes me uncomfortable when I’m alone because I don’t know what to do then. But, before I left my previous job, I realized the importance of being comfortable with yourself first. When I was working in my previous company, for the first time I felt that I was alone because I had nobody to talk to as everybody was senior to me so I felt reluctant to talk to them apart from that general ‘Hello’s, Goodbye’s and work-things’. Initially, I used to feel good at times because I can do anything and nobody would judge me. I used to watch TV Series in my lunch breaks, work on my blog or listen to songs and walk.
I was beginning to like my company. If I had an equal amount of work too, I wouldn’t have left the job, but since there was not much work and it was becoming almost impossible for me to do nothing all the time, just sit with no one to talk to, and all the past negative thoughts recurring making me feel anxious once again, I had to leave the job to protect myself from further destroying my mental health.
(P.S. You can read my previous blog where I have shared all about my work experience and the reason for leaving it. The link is…. http://gratisoul.com/let-it-go-and-move-on/ )
HOW TO ENJOY YOUR OWN COMPANY?
After I left my job, I thought of taking a short break where I wanted to introspect what and how things went for me so far and how can I change it because I wanted to get out of that long-sobbing phase of mine and get back to my previous routine.
I TOOK MYSELF OUT FOR A COFFEE!!
I know it might not sound that big of a deal to some people who generally do this, but for me, it was as I’ve never deliberately gone alone somewhere. So, I took my notepad, a pen, and my earphones. I went to Starbucks, ordered my favorite Frappuccino, plugged in my earphones, took the corner most seat where I could glance at nature as well and started writing whatever that happened, what could have gone wrong but somehow I managed that situation and where I am now, surviving through it all. I felt a little proud of myself of being strong enough to overcome that phase.
PAT YOURSELF ON THE BACK FOR HOW LONG YOU HAVE COME.
I used to listen to songs in my lunch break when I felt low or when I was clueless about how to go on forward when nothing was going right. Sometimes, I used to cry because I felt so helpless that how did everything turn out in such a way?
But when I overcame that phase and listened to those same songs again, I was not sad. I looked myself in the mirror and gave a pat on my back that finally, it’s over, and even if that phase returns, this time I know how to handle it. I felt proud of myself for not giving up easily. And even if those past thoughts reoccur when I hear those same songs, this time the emotions are different. There is a feeling of accomplishment now.
CELEBRATE YOUR VICTORIES!!
Going out on a coffee date on my own was a victory for me and I’m proud of myself that I took that step to get to know myself better. (I don’t care if it is a big or small thing to anyone, to me it’s the first step towards self-discovery)
COFFEE worked for me, it can work for you too. Or something else might… you gotta try it to know it. YOU CAN TRY THE FOLLOWING THINGS, IF YOU DON’T LIKE COFFEE-
1. Go and watch a movie on your own. (don’t think that others might consider you as a ‘loner’, TBH people don’t even think about us that much as we think they might) what are the pros of watching a movie alone? You’ll not have to wait for someone to clear their schedule for you, you’ll not have to take other’s opinions in mind on which movie to watch annnddd you can eat an entire tub of popcorn on your own without sharing… HAHA
2. Sit for a while in nature. Go to your nearby park or wherever you feel the most peaceful. For me, when I can’t go to a park at night but I want to have that ‘me-time’, I go to my terrace. Sit there for a while, listen to songs and admire the small things I can see from up there. It makes me feel grounded and peaceful.
3. Go to your favorite restaurant. Treat yourself, people. You’ll love it. (P.S There are 2 types of people. You decide which one you want to be…)
4. Pick up a hobby and pursue it. Be it singing, dancing, writing or anything you like. For me, it’s writing. Whenever I feel or see anything inspiring, or worth writing I feel the need to write and express through it. It gives a feeling of self-satisfaction.
You have to take some time out for yourself, no matter how busy your schedule is, what people might think of you or how uncomfortable you feel in your own company. You’ll thank yourself later that you took out some time for yourself.
Everybody came on this planet alone, and they have to go alone as well. So why are we so afraid to live alone for some time?
I’m not saying to cut off your relations with others and just stay forever alone. Those relationships you have with others is as important as you have with yourself. All I want to say is PRIORITIZE YOUR PHYSICAL, MENTAL AND EMOTIONAL HEALTH OVER ANYTHING. BECAUSE IF YOU ARE NOT HAPPY WITH YOURSELF, NEITHER CAN PEOPLE MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER AND NOR CAN YOU HELP THEM WHEN THEY WANT. YOU HAVE TO TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF FIRST.
Enough said, now go get ready and take yourself out on a date!!
Until then, live positively and happily!!