It’s my birthday in two days and you know who used to get excited about every single birthday in our family? My grandmother (Dadi). But we lost her a month back and we don’t know how will we ever overcome that loss. As the saying goes “life goes on”, we are trying to live by that, but it is easier said than done!
I know there is suffering on a global level due to the ongoing Covid-19 pandemic, but apart from that if someone faces personal suffering too, then things get a bit tough to digest and handle.
We are not taught in schools and colleges about how to cope up with such situations and it won’t matter either. Because no matter how much you think that you are strong enough to handle anything come what may, situations like these tend to mellow us down and we feel helpless about when will all this misery end?
Here are 4 ways which will not be a magic formula but small steps to live by the “life goes on” mantra-
1. Embrace the present
Just look around yourself. Try to take a mental picture of that very moment. (Yeah, just like parker, phoebe’s boyfriend in the iconic TV Series F.R.I.E.N.D.S. used to do. And yes, I am a big fan and if you are too, then hello friend!)
Whatever you see around, feel, smell, taste, experience is your present. This exact moment won’t come again. So, if you are facing a hard time coping with the ‘uncertain future’, then this trick can help you out.
2. Embrace the relationships
We love the people who are gone, miss the people who left us, but never truly are grateful for the people who stick by us no matter what comes. We never truly value the small gestures of love that they do for us every day. Only when they are not with us is when we miss them.
Start being grateful for the relationships that you have. Make efforts for them. Show them that they are valued. Tell them that you admire their presence in your life by any small act of kindness.
These small steps of kindness will help you to embrace the days you spend with your loved ones and that will help you to overcome the bad days of your life with ease!
3. Develop a practical approach towards life
Now, this is ironic coming from an emotional person like me to be practical. But when times get tough, you have to see the bigger picture. You shouldn’t let things, situations, people disturb your mental peace.
Try to avoid unnecessary drama, cut out toxic people, things, and habits from your life. Even if you are an emotional person, try to develop a rational approach rather than going all sentimental about stuff that you can’t control.
This one tip is what I am also learning currently, so I know how tough it seems. But this trick will help you to overcome a rough patch with ease.
4. Dive into the nostalgia but not too deep
Now what I mean when I say to be a bit nostalgic is to remember the good times that you spent with the person who is no longer in your life. Instead of mourning their loss, embrace the good old days you spent talking to them, enjoying with them and their little habits.
This will create a happy picture of that person whenever you feel sad about their absence. I do this sometimes. Here’s a little story-
“So, I was the first girl child born in my family after my two brothers (1 real, 1 cousin). My dadi was the happiest person because she wanted a girl. And she used to call me “Guddu” (probably most of the Indian parents/grandparents call their daughters by this name) My dadi always used to say that I’ll always call you guddu even after you are married and I used to love being called by that name. And now when she is gone and sometimes my mother calls me guddu, I feel nostalgic and go into that ‘good old days’ phase.
Do what you feel is right for you!
Well, these are some of the basic tricks that you can implement if you feel overwhelmed sometimes about the unpredictable nature of life. Just remind yourselves of these tips and you might feel a bit better. Eventually, we all have to say “Life goes on” to ourselves at some point or another.
No matter how tough the situation is for you right now, how sad you might be feeling currently, just remember that life will go on and this too shall pass. Try to live one day at a time, one moment at a time and probably you won’t think much about what tomorrow will bring.
Read my latest blog about the ongoing pandemic and how to look at the bigger picture by following the link to my Times of India blog-
Sending good health and good vibes to you and your loved ones!
Until then, just live one day at a time!