19th November 2020 is World Men’s day and living in a male-dominated society is not easy. But we often judge without hearing the other side of the story. What does it feel to be a man? What do people mean when they say ‘Be a Man’, or ‘man up’?
These are some of the questions which nobody even bothers to hear or talk about. Because in this judgmental society we usually believe what we see and hence feed our mind with that one-sided information.
Being a female, I know it is tough to fight for our basic rights in this old-fashioned society. But it isn’t easy to be a man either. We all face our share of struggles daily and continue to fight for our rights.
Here are 3 ways how to actually ‘Be a man’
1. Real men don’t cry
This is the biggest misconception that I loathe. Why can’t men cry? Is it only for females? Does crying signify weakness? Does crying signify that ‘you are not a man’? Absolutely NOT.
Crying is not gender-specific. If you are feeling low, want to vent out, or just feel like giving up and want to cry all night long, then do what calms your soul without thinking what others will think.
You are not a ‘softie’ if you cry. It’s called being ‘human’ if you cry and humans have real emotions. You don’t have to hide your tears and cry alone. Cry your heart out with anyone and everyone with whom you feel comfortable. Just don’t hide your emotions. That’s a very unhealthy way to live.
2. Be a Man and become a breadwinner for the family
Why is being a ‘bread-winner’ only a responsibility for men? If we preach gender equality, fight for it, then why not share that load with our male counterparts?
It’s 2020 for Christ’s sake! Stop pressuring your brother, son, father to earn for the family. Instead share their load and earn with them. Because in today’s time, earning a decent income can be time-consuming and equally pressurizing. So, why should a man bear all that pressure alone?
I mean just because it is a traditional practice of men being the sole income earner of the family doesn’t mean we can’t change that now. We can and we should. Use your qualification, experience, and inner qualities to share the load and become a bread-winner too.
3. Be a man and don’t choose a ‘female profession’
Since when have we categorized work profile as male or female? We can be anything and everything irrespective of our gender, color, or status.
It’s not fair that if a man wants to choose a career which most females opt for, then he is not a real man and vice versa.
A man can be a homemaker just as a woman can be an F1 race champion. Stop stereotyping job description according to gender. Let a person breathe and do what he/she wants to do. Maybe they will excel in that field, maybe they won’t. It’s none of your business either way!
Let a person do whatever they want to do without stereotyping them or judging them based on their gender. A man can cry, like pink color, or choose to be a homemaker just as a female can be tough, like blue color and choose to be a soldier.
Let’s focus on building a better society and leaving a gender-neutral society for the generation to come!
What are your views on the same, let’s discuss in the comments below! Happy Men’s Day to all the men out there!
Until then, live positively and happily!